This was beyond awesome! I'm sharing this with everyone I'm attached to because, by and large, it uncovered answers to the numerous conversations we have everyday! Literally!
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Honestly. I have been looking for answers and i'm going to try these. I never keep with anything long term. Its a product of my ADHD but I want to get better and I feel these strategies may just help me overcome this phase i'm dealing with. Thank you very much
This article is freaking awesome. The tools are so basic but awesome. Right on target with so with the murderers and chasing the notion of what is my purpose. I sent this to my teenage kids to show them life, not all the make believe that they hear everyday. Thanks!
It makes sense to me right now, there are lots going on in my life, and with other family members, relationship breakdown, low income due to a job switch. Health matters, care responsibility to parents...agh list could go on and on like most peoples. Ironically I coach other people however have taken a step back as I know I am not in the right place to Coach!. I';m the one needing a coach right now, Someone to answer too! yep I get it. Thank you... Can you come visit Glasgow Scotland!!! :)
There's no answers in this article! Only the call to take action! Taking action is not an answer! It's the solution! There's a difference in an answer and a solution. This article proves it! (:
i didn't have have the energy or finish this article...
One of the best articles i've read in a while. Detailed and to the point. Awesome :D
I just dropped in to see what condition my condition was in...
Honestly - It's too masculine and probably more than 50% of people looking for self help are women. Balance it out. Gals aren't by pictures cute chicks or guys with guns. Get a female influence here. Also - please don't recommend caffeine! I have a TERRIBLE relationship with coffee - to the point that it was killing my kidneys and all I looked forward to in a day was the moment I could have a cup of coffee and feel energized and happy, except, it didn't actually energize me or make me happy anymore, I just needed it not to feel like complete crap. I recently quit (again) cold turkey (I have quit so many times and so many different ways!) and I am looking for NON-caffeinated motivation, and that comment made me really struggle.
I don't even have the energy and motivation to read it all
Common sense at every turn. As I read each section I felt free from several obstacles that I built between myself and success. Perfect timing!
Kyle this was one of the best articles I have read in a while and exactly how i feel about my life right now...no job, b/f left me and I have 0 motivation for anything. This is after i just spent 8 years in post secondary, got 2 degrees and thought my life was going places. Then the oil bust hit and I lost my job. Reading this really puts things in perspective. Most of it I already knew or figured out, but it's great to see I am not alone.
Ten points for the different way you have approached deep rooted flaws in a persons make-up....envy. no point speaking bout the rest of it without beginning with taboo characteristics. Nice job! I related to the lot!
Great article. Humor, straight talk and naked arses. What more could you want? I especially liked the FB advice. I need to rest for 20 minutes now...
Best motivation is proper music. Not talking about pinkcloud love bs on the radio or electronic, it's not realistic and therefore it will drag you to a fantasy world you create in your mind serving to further alienate you from your fellow human beings. That shit is like a virus makeing people turn a blind eye to the horrible mess this world has become or worst case scenario will make you keep in your anger so it builds up untill you blow a bomb in a building with innocents or choose to go to war cause you lack excitement in your life. Pick your fights with care. Best wishes
I only live 1 hour south from you. Down here if Port Charlotte. This was one of the best blog posts I've ever read. It speaks to me on so many levels. You and I are very similar. Hope to meet you at the top soon!
Kyle - Thank you for pouring yourself into it. Built so much for others, but lost my way. Thanks for giving me a deserved kick in the ass.
The only thing I needed at this very moment was your article. Thankyou so much.
who will read all that
Wow! i can feel a burst of energy.... thanks for the write-up... i will need to read it again and again
I am no authority, but I'd say give yourself time to heal. Take a mini vacation (or a big one) and get away from everything for awhile. Re-gather and get back at it! :) Good luck!
Hi, Kyle I dont ever comment on this things but It is an awesome post and maybe like you said maybe it will motivate me just for a few hours BUT for sure there is some good things that got stuck un my head, I can see this helping a lot of people so thank you for that, keep the awesome job! KEEP MOVING FOWARD! 🖒
Wow, I mean wow this some of the best literature I have read in a while. Do we know ach other, did we grow up together, have we had business ventures in the same circles. I asked myself all of the following questions while reading this article. I enjoyed it, to say the least. Some of the points made here rival entire schools of thought and rationales, however it is absolute truth to a fault. Kyle, Thanks for writing this man, it is a game changer and I will definitely be revisiting from time to time to remind myself. Did you already convert to a book, I need this in my library for sure.
I am 5 months away from finishing my college degree. This journey has taken 5 years while I have worked full time and been active in many fund raising events as well. Thanks for letting me know its okay to be impatient and overwhelmed sometimes. Working on Chunking and taking steps to organize and do a little at a time will help me finish this journey! Thank you!
Hi I know that this post been up for a while and well, I recently hit rock bottom because I was drinking and driving and was in a car crash nothing major thank god. I have lost a lot of things like my car my job and I went into surgery for a fractured ankle. I been wondering why I hit rock bottom I used to be highly motivate this article made me realize a way to stay positive and why I lost my motivation. This article open my eyes and I want to say thank you.
This is indubitably most wonderful and truthful article i have ever encountered. Very thoughtfully and beautifully wrote about the inner truths of motivation killers.
Hey Kyle, Thank you so much for this article. I can't even explain how much you helped me. You didn't just motivate me (from 0 to 100) , but especially you gave me so much positive energy and so many beautiful reasons to never stop doing What I love and what is the best for me. I just want to say big fat Thank you, because you helped me to get back. I was so angry at myself, but you brought a light to my life just by writing this beautiful thing. Thank you again so much.. (and man never quit wiritng you are GREAT!)
I needed to read this. I honestly cant thank you enough! Such a fantastic article!
IMHO you've got the right anrews!
When I read "you are procrastinating right now by reading this article" I knew this article was going to attempt an actual analysis of the problem.
I have read many articles and stories to no end on many topics, especially about motivation. And for the first time, when I read and re-read this, every word and every step you addressed was exactly how I was feeling. Your words are so profound. I can't thank you enough for writing this post. My heart feels at peace! Thank you for taking the time to write this. You have helped me tremendously!!!!
Exactly what I needed. Especially the part in inaction. Perfect, timely and am acting from right now. Thanks from Kenya.
This blog changed my life in many ways. I have failed so many times and I decided to start over but my overthinking, inaction, and loss of meaning stopped me from continuing. I will apply all these key points to my daily life. Thank you for writing this, you have helped me to stay motivated and to keep my sight on the right path. Thank you so much, Erick
Sorry but the fact you think we should be grateful for a job, to pay for things that should be free. (As no one owns anything on this planet) Is proof enough for me that you are part of the problem.
This article is amazing... And exactly what I needed to light a fire under myself again. You articulated perfectly what kills my motivation every day. Knowing someone else suffers with the same 'murderers' is enough to make me want to do more of the things I love and silence the negative voice in the back of my head. I have a feeling I'll read this many times over. Thank you!
Great Article! Thank you
Opinions are like assholes... am I right? Eh?
Wow!! I can't even express how this writing REALLY hit home! I've saved it to my desktop .. so I can reference it again. I've also emailed it to my younger brother, hoping it will impact him too.
Thank you! Make sure you download the post as a PDF!
Thank you so much for writing this! I'm going to have to read this several times and take action every day.
Thank you so much for this! I feel like I have been doing the work I need to do to get to where I want to be but then all of a sudden I start to feel like "Is this really want I want to do?" I overanalyze so when you said that the "meaning is in the work" it really hit home for me! This article is so valuable. What a fresh perspective!
Extremely good information, thank you for taking the time to write this!
I just found this page saved on my old iPad, I'm going through a tough time at the moment and definitely needed to re-read this. I feel so much better already. Thank you
I took 3 days to read this giving myself time to absorb this valuable information and I must say this is a life changer for me. I can feel it. Thank you
Kyle, I am 44 years old and have lost all motivation and purpose. I found it difficult to put what I was feeling in words. I really do have a great life but something is not right. You captured it. Tears came to my eye as I read your article as I thought, "YES! That's IT!" These very simple principles are sometimes difficult to apply in today's world, yet you give practical steps that ANYONE can use. Your article will be on my refrigerator at home and on my board at work. I actually feel a stir of excitement in my gut as I look forward to taking steps to get my life back. First on the list: Goodbye Facebook. Thank you.
Hey Kyle Eschenroeder. First off thank you and great job for this blog!! When I read Mastery by Robert Greene 2 years ago it instantly became my favorite book for awakening me to mental obstacles in life that i knew existed but was not concious about. However, when I read this blog, it reignited a sense of duty, and reopened my awareness to these motivational killers, as you wonderfully put it. It definitely adds another great vantage point to tackle our human defects. I know its not complete but keep going. Youre doing great. Thanks again.
Where can i do that?
There is a link to download it if you look on the post
I went for a walk. Thanks. <
Walks are awesome to clear the head! Heading to the park on lunch breaks is also really peaceful :)
Awesome article!
So happy you liked it Lindsay!!!
I think I'll floss...at least one tooth. Thank you ;-)
I needed to read this today. It makes more sense than any other thing i have read to get me out of an artistic slump. Thank you!
Thank you, the entertainment industry is tough. I needed this
We're always here for you brother! Keep going :)
Good stuff! Thanks for the motivation! 🤣
I've been having a hard time with getting up to workout in the mornings. I needed this today. Awesome tips 😇
We're so glad that you are taking action! Keep in touch!
Kyle - I haven't finished reading this yet, but before I take a break, I wanted to say thank you for this. It doesn't matter that you are not Nassim Taleb. It's not Taleb who helped me today - its what you have written. Thank you.
Hi Kyle, I always known the reasons for lack of motivation but couldn't figure out what needed to be done to shun these in the long run. After reading this article, I have a better understanding of my situation and right directions to go in now. Many thanks for writing this. You are making people lives more worthwhile
Everything you wrote makes perfect sense so thanks for that! I will be returning to this often for reinforcement.
That was a great article-- very thought-provoking! I liked the part that said if you can't get motivated then maybe it's not a project you should be working on. My favorite line was, "Every time I’ve listened and jumped into the darkness I’ve been rewarded handsomely with awesome experiences and an infusion of energy that doesn’t come by following what others think you should be doing.". So awesome...
We are so lost, that we needed to google and find this. Vague thinking is the root of half the unhappiness.
Very much to the point and accurate. Reinforced what I already knew. Action, action, action! Thanks for the kick in da bum. Boom...Loved it!
THIS IS LIFE CHANGING
GREAT post! Loved loved loved it! Perfectly motivated now and totally geeked up!!! (sarcasm intentional, but message very sincere, absolutely loved this post! Just what I needed!) Never realized just how much these were the 7 things draining all forms of "good vibes" out of my daily existence. I could soooooo identify with each one as I read. It was like dragging a vampire into the sunlight. For real. Thanks again for writing and posting this lifesaver!
Honestly glad I stumbled upon this instead of some other article about motivation. It was a bright way/take on ways to fight and approach inaction and lack of motivation that I never thought of before. Awesome!!
There is some great stuff in this article, well done. ...but there is something that wasn't covered and is not really considered much. illness. What if 5/7 days in your week you are sick with one of many many horrible symptoms and nothing you do or try will help? When I get a day or a few hours when i feel mentally and physically OK, I feel like a different person. I charge ahead, I get out my google calendar, I make plans, I book appointments... I start to feel really good. ...then I wake the next day and I feel so sick that I have no choice, but go back to bed - I am have chronic illness, and for me life is over. I gave up on motivation, now I can't even get the inspiration to do simple things that I use to love... like watch a movie or play a video game... sometimes I even forget to eat. Game over.
A really interesting perspective here, Kyle. Thanks for sharing. While I've been well aware of the power of gratitude to increase your overall health and happiness, I've never really thought of in the context of increasing your motivation. Similarly, I had never really given much thought to envy as a motivation killer. Intuitively, I would have probably said that it increases your motivation when you envy someone in order to have what they have, but you offer a compelling argument for why that isn't so. I didn't quite understand the placement of inaction on this list, though. To me, inaction is an outcome of low motivation, not a cause. Personally, I often struggle with overwhelm, especially when faced with large amounts of information to absorb and learn and/or ambiguous situations. One thing I didn't see on this list that I would consider a common contributor to low motivation is fear. This can take many forms, whether fear of failure, fear of success, fear of meeting expectations (either your own or others), fear of what other people will think of you, etc.
This is really valuable information. I refer to this post pretty often. In fact, it inspired me to write my own about staying motivated through the ups-and-downs of a startup. I thought giving up my day job way the hard part. No, that was just the first step. Staying motivated when people keep tell you your baby is ugly is the hard part
Thank you very much for this. So glad I came across it. Going through a rough time right now. Thank you again! :)
Okay I’m sharing this on Facebook because the irony makes me laugh. As well as defining my emotional killer (overwhelm and inactivity) you made me laugh so thank you. I would like to add another to the list: self pity which is a self defeating b******d and one I battle with in a glorious self suffocation. The cure is to look up and around and recognise how pitiful your own issues are in context with others, be a confidente- even to someone in tv who does not know you. Today my area was kicked when I heard news on the same day of two people in my life who have just learnt they have breast cancer. Self pity is an egotistical motivation killer and we are all guilty of wallowing sometimes. Thank you for helping me be a better and less significant person. Xx
Thank you for this.
Your descriptions of Envy and Inaction resonate with me. Envy, however, has been the concept that is most painful to accept as happening. I learned this about myself only about one year ago. I'm glad it's not just me feeling this way because for a long time I didn't recognize it. I kept wondering, "what is this odd sensation inside me that is like a cringe each time I see someone's success, adventures, and joys?" Eventually, I asked myself, "Am I jealous? No, it can't be.". But I was jealous. When I finally gave this feeling the name of Envy, I felt wrong for feeling it. I thought I was a terrible person. Now that I read your article, I'm glad I'm not alone, and that you and many others feel it too. Funny that you mention Facebook. For a couple months now I've been purposely avoiding it for two reasons: 1) Most people post things that I don't find interesting, and 2) Some people post things that I wish I could be doing but am not so I feel left out, and yes, envious. Indeed, their lives seemingly appear better than my own. I have to remember that I don't know what truly goes on behind closed doors. Like you, I too post photos that make me look adventurous, but that's not my real life all day everyday. On a daily basis my life consists of a job and then going home to be unproductive. The adventures take place occasionally. I mean, why would I post about the boring parts of my life, right? Thanks for this article. I will work on becoming motivated and staying that way!
Impatience is the one that gets me the most. My whole life I've been dubbed an "overachiever" and I can list pages of so called "achievements" yet I'm always so impatient to get to the next thing that Ive never felt like I've ever had time to stop and actually enjoy what I've worked so hard for. Thank you for describing this motivation killer so eloquently. I've read so many books and posts on motivation and this is by far the most useful :)
Thank You for the Info. I used to be a very enthusiastic, but one big hit to my motivation and I've been very dull and useless. I went reading for help,to stubble onto this website. GOSH, its opened my mind and eyes. I really looking forward to try the techniques and for the future. Loss of Meaning and Envy really opened my mind for ideas.
This is the best information to enter my brain in a long time. Maybe ever. Although I think it was close to this at one time, but may have been neglected and is very messy right now. My brain that it. lol It's as if you took my mind, organized it, confirmed thoughts that I thought only "I" was having, could read my mind as I would have internal responses, and then addressed them in your next statement and it just kept going. Just one MK would have been great.. but seven! I didn't organize this comment but am freely expressing an overwhelming sense of being calm! Yes. That's right. The first day I have felt "at ease" in a very long time... from READING YOUR BLOG. I've followed evangelists, motivational speakers, my favorite spiritual leaders, had therapy on-line and in person, prayed, meditated and more.. and THIS. Your (I can't even call it merely a blog) writings, and how you describe them are substantial, filled with tangible to do items to actually do and really think about.. not fluff. It's real. It's accurate. It's loaded with ways to "re-group, re-build". I have read this three times in two days. I plan on carrying it with me at most times. I don't mean to sound like a stalker of a "blog", but it truly set off a light bulb as to the fact that I've been searching, researching and focusing on all the wrong areas. But lack of motivation and the REASONS for it, and the ways to BEAT them, can be a source of so many many other issues. I just turned 50. Educated, almost empty nester, caregiver to a parent, divorced after 20 yr., have had 5-6 major life events come my way in a small matter of time, and have the whole world facing me. I NEEDED THIS. I imagine many, many others do. It is an incredible tool.. or plethera of tools to manage each day. THANK YOU!!!!! I plan on following you (again, not stalking), and looking forward to your other works. I also plan to share this with dear friends who are all searching for WHY am I feeling this way.. or WHY am I not feeling this way.
This is the best thing I've read in so many years. No joke. I've been in a terrible funk lately, and when I say lately, I mean for a good 3+ years at least. Ive been so burned out and bummed out that I acted in ways that were not like my original self. But lately I think I've hit a breaking point and I can't do it anymore. This has been so helpful. Thank you, so much. I will forever keep this article.
My life has been characterized by inactivity. And my bad eating habit, greasy food and sugary things have contributed to it. I have been merely exiting and not living. Thank you for helping me find me. And gratitude, it was difficult to admit but now I see I'm truly not grateful enough. In all I have been blessed by your writeup.
This is an amazing article. I think this might be the first time I have ever responded to an article online. It's smart and grounded and super giving. I could literally feel your whole heart behind the words trying to support and help others. I'm super grateful for coming across this post. We need more content like this these days. Thank you for the love and good energy. Super good work!!!
Hey there from Austria, I got hooked ... I really like the way how you approach motivation. It made me laugh, thoughtful, triggered mental pressure points ... and I like the way how you make fun of yourself. So my first comment on a website - you motivated me :)
Wow. Just wow. This is everything going in my head put into words. I think I fall into multiple categories of being unmotivated. This article is brilliantly written, very helpful, and probably the best I have ever read online. Thanks a lot. Now I am gonna get my ass back to work.... :)
These ideas are critical for helping students. The idea that you are a failure if you don’t do well on a test permeates society. The first time I took the G.R.E. I had pneumonia and coughed throughout the entire test. The room was all wood and echoed with each cough. I was so embarrassed. I don’t remember the results, I threw them away.
MAn I’m 27 and I just been feeling like my life have been going nowhere it’s 3:45 am and I just sat in my man cave and looked up why am I not motivated on good and I found this article and it just mad me want to be apart of something big do something bigger start somewhere anywhere this article mad me just breath fresh air man you don’t know how much I appreciated this it was like a one on one convo I need more people like you in my life I just honestly want to say thank you I’m going to use this content to the best of my abilities and I’m going to start now writing 50 grateful things I want to really keep in touch with your content I like this step by step it make me feel like there’s hope thank you
This article contains tips that I personally never would have thought of and it is fantastically written. I appreciate the time you spent into this article.
This was everything I needed to read. I have been feeling so unmotivated. I’m extremely grateful and appreciative of this article. You must have spent some time typing it up and I’m very grateful. It was the perfect push I needed. Thank you
My husband just got through telling me how angry I make him because I am so unmotivated to do anything. I decided to read about it and luckily for me, your article was the first ( and only) one I read. I didn't have to do years of searching etc. as some other rea ders had to do. To be honest, and I know you're not a marriage counselor, my husband is my motivation killer. I feel like I am constantly being backed into a corner and having to defend myself. I don't want to cook for him or clean anymore, either. However, I am very motivated when it comes to my grandchildren and my church and working with children and youth at church in the arts. I am going to do my best to apply your principles to my life and hope I can do better. Thank you for your sharing your experience, insight and inspiration with us! P.S. I cannot handle a list. That is way too stressful for me. The rest of it, I feel, is doable for me.
Thank you for this. It's straight forward and works for me.
Hi Patsy, I think the key to a successful relationship or marriage is communication. You mustn't be afraid to relay your feelings or frustrations to your husband and neither should he. Being aware of each other's thoughts and feelings will help give each of you an understanding of where you both are emotionally. This will also give a base to how you can help each other. Relationships should have equal responsibilities and expectations. If one has a higher degree of either that can become tiresome and promote frustration. I hope this helps!
Thank you for the well-written and easy to read/understand article. It helps knowing that you're not the only one afflicted by lack of motivation. I'm not a huge subscriber to blogs and sites so sorry in advance if I unsubscribe in a few weeks, it's nothing personal! Keep up the great work!! Juanita, Dubai, UAE
This was a very well written article. Thank you for all the fantastic advice!
thank you!~ I think if anything, the exercise helps :), I do pullups and pressups because I like strength exercise :)
Getting into the "flow" makes for the orderly completion of tasks, one at a time. Before long, that overwhelming obstacle has vanished.
Awesome article, this has been inspiring. I also lived in St. Petersburg for some time and currently reside in Jacksonville. Very cool and well thought out article. I'm fighting depression and trying to find motivation post-divorce as a 33 year old single dad. I experienced a massive loss of wealth and family disappointment along with some bad choices I made trying to numb myself out of life and really needed to read this. Thank you.
Thanks man! I needed this. #GameOn
I just want to say THANK YOU for writing this. Like you mentioned above, we come across thousands of "motivational" quotes daily. However, 9 times out of 10 that feeling is gone as soon as we're on to the next post. I am so enlightened by the way you broke this down. I honestly can't put into words how grateful I am to have come across this read and how GREAT of a read it is. I will be sharing this with everyone and everywhere. Thank you for taking your time to write this Kyle!
I don't know how long since you have written this article, but I stumbled apon it on social media and clicked on it. Let me just say I love this article and it in its self is motivation. What I loved the most was there was no bull shit about it. You didn't dance around the point. You just gave it like it was. After reading this, it was alomst like I could breath again after suffocating for so long. It helped me tremendously and I want to thank you. I'm so glad I stumbled apon it because in all honesty, I was not having a good day. I was just moping around about what little motivation I have. Then, I found this artical. You brought me a whole new meaning to motivation..... And I thank you.
Thankyou for grounding me and offering practical no none sense tools to get back on track. Straight to the point and helpful!
Thank you so, so much for your enlightenment into why I may be feeling the way I am. To the outside world I have nothing to complain about but inside I have ground to a halt. I am going to use the methods you have suggested to pick my inner self back up off the ground where she has landed. Starting to make changes in bite size pieces. I was always the one rushing around, a day doing nothing was a day wasted etc, not anymore I will take time to focus on slowing down, to see what’s around me, being greatful of my life and what I do have, and definitely change my job. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and experience to help others. Millie.